From Ashes to Beauty – A Black Woman’s Journey Through Divorce, tackles, head-on, the difficulties that women of colour, especially black women in South Africa face when they try to escape abusive marriages. This book not only examines how and why women enter and stay in these devastating cycles of abuse, it also offers a step by step guide for women wanting to break free from those cycles.
It is a book for all women of colour, who come from conservative cultures, religion and families. Women, some of whom may have even been sold into marriage, against their will. This is a book for every woman and man with a daughter, a sister, a relative or a friend struggling with abuse in marriage. It is also for every man who aspires to change and challenge cultural norms that perpetuate the abuse of women. It is meant to educate and equip everyone with the awareness of things that make us enter these abusive marriages and those that keep us there, most of all, the knowledge on how to get out.
About the Author
Thubelihle is a black woman first, a daughter, a little sister, a mom and a friend. Married at age 22 and finally divorced 10 years later, breaking away from a vicious cycle of an abusive marriage. She is a survivor, voice, and anchor for all women of colour. Thuba is a non-apologetic fighter for the emancipation and the empowerment of black women and the black children.
Hailing from a village in Nkandla, Northern KwaZulu Natal, to parents who were all about Ubuntu, education and bringing about change, she is a tireless student of life. A teacher by profession and by devotion, she holds a Bachelor of Pedagogies in Primary Education from the former University of Durban-Westville, now known as University of KwaZulu-Natal, Westville Campus. Her love for teaching and travelling propelled her to obtain a TEFL Certificate, which enables her to teach English in foreign lands. Before leaving South Africa, she also graduated, with a Distinction from Damelin College with a Certificate in Elementary Public Relations.
She is a traveller and a nomad who thrives in foreign countries, embracing and immersing herself in different cultures and religions, moving from one country to another. Her first choice in assignments is always small towns and villages where she gets to mingle with the locals and experience authentic and uncontaminated cultures. She has lived in South Korea, Saudi Arabia and Oman where she currently resides and works as an English Lecturer.
To many, she is known as a mother, a sister and a friend. To others, she is a lecturer, coach and an advocate for women of colour and issues affecting them. Thubelihle is a force to be reckoned with and a fearless fighter where women and children’s rights are concerned.